Addiction
Intervention Services
Guiding Your Loved One towards Healing and Recovery
Are you concerned about a loved one you think or know is in the throes of an addiction (or any other mental health issue, i.e., behavioral or emotional instability, psychosis, depression…)?
Are you facing a crisis and you don’t know what to say or do? Feeling powerless? Standing by helplessly watching someone you love spiraling down, destroying their lives and relationships?
Usually an intervention isn't sought or planned until the problems have progressed and reached crisis proportions in which communication has shut down while no one in the family is talking about the pink elephant in the room.
An intervention is an opportunity to have full on conversations about the pink elephants in the room that had been long since avoided.
What is an intervention?
The family comes together in a concerted and coordinated effort to express love and support to get their loved one to seek the help they need to get their lives back on track. It’s a tightly structured process that can take several hours to complete, sometimes over the course of days, that shines light on the denial and breaks the code of silence that had perpetuated the addiction.
The family members are given the time and space to begin talking about their feelings towards their loved one, their most painful memories, how they and their relationships with their loved one have been impacted, and to rehearse what they will have to say to their loved one in support of their seeking the help they need after the intervention. Afterwards, the loved one is given the space to respond to what was said and heard.
Feel free to set up a brief time for us to assess your situation and next action steps.
Addiction Treatment
Our addiction, recovery and intervention services, programs; posts, blogs, training modules, articles and books are accessible at the RV website are based on The Relationship Model of Addiction™, A New Paradigm for Understanding Addiction and Recovery (by Daniel A. Linder MFT).
Addiction is a symptom of the human condition. We can break humanity down into two kinds of people; those who get their emotional needs met and those that don’t, and those who are driven by their need for connection and love and those driven to relieve the pain from unmet needs.Human beings have two basic needs: the need for love/connection and the need to relieve thepain when those needs are unmet.
Addiction is not a disease. Addiction is a relationship with a means of relief (be it substances, activities like porn, sex and gambling or with people, i.e. codependency) of pain, from unmet emotional needs.
Unhealthy, non-nourishing relationships are the spawning ground of addiction. The backlog of pain from unmet emotional needs or lack of nourishment is the underlying driving force of any addiction.
Addiction naturally extinguishes itself when our emotional needs get met in our relationships, with ourselves and with others; when there is no longer the level of pain to drive the addiction.
Recovery is a three-stage transitional journey out of unhealthy relationships and into healthy ones that continues over the course of a lifetime.
The Three Stages of Recovery are:
Stage I - Breaking-up Mindfully (with the means of relief);
Stage II - Developing the Relationship with Self;
Stage III - Creating Emotionally Nourishing Relationships (relationship training).
