What Makes Daniel Unique
What makes Daniel unique is his focus on making more and deeper connections and on creating healthy, nourishing and intimate relationships; his model applies to platonic intimacy — all inner circle relationships including life partners or lovers, husbands, wives, parents, children, siblings, extended family, or friends.
He believes that all the problems that people bring to therapy are relationship-sourced and that the cause is the cure. Primary relationships, past and current, that fail to provide adequate emotional nourishment are the cause, and teaching people how to create nourishing relationships is the cure.
He views connection, communication and conversation as art forms that require an understanding of the co-creative process and the practice and honing of essential relationship-building skills.
The Relationship Model of Addiction™
His Relationship Model of Addiction is a new paradigm for understanding and treating addiction; based on the premise that addiction is not a disease, but a relationship with a means of relief from pain from unmet emotional needs and that recovery is a three-stage transitional journey out of unhealthy, non-nourishing relationships and into emotionally nourishing ones.
In His Own Words
I'm the "relationships guy."
I'm a natural-born relater off the streets of Brooklyn—ready to connect with anyone, anytime, anywhere, about anything.
I never had to wonder what I was going to do with my life. I chose the field of therapy at the ripe old age of 25 — it was a no brainer. Therapy with a central focus on relationships was what I was most interested in, enjoyed the most, best at and most passionate about.
I've been studying relationships since I was five years old. Back then, I was already noticing the stark difference between people around me who were close and connected versus those who were disconnected and at odds. The tension was palpable. This early sensitivity became my compass.
When it came to emotions and relationships, I always trusted my senses and intuition. I had a relationship with my Self but didn't know I had one until much later in life. I was always talking to myself about what I saw happening in the relationships around me. My laser-sharp focus became my life's work.
What I learned after nearly 40 years of clinical work is that the cause is the cure. Nearly all the problems that bring people into therapy are relationship sourced, that is; a direct, and sometimes indirect, result of the lack of nourishment and pain from unmet emotional needs from past and current relationships.
"All of the work I do is about empowering the transformation of relationships by strengthening the relationship with your Self. You transform your relationship with others by transforming the relationship with your Self. You can't connect if you're not connected."
It doesn't matter what you've been through in your life and regardless of how nourishing your relationships have been, it is possible for you to learn the art and make your dream of having an inner circle of primary nourishing relationships, other than the one with your Self of course, come true.
For Fellow Practitioners
For the whole of my forty years of experience, I was always aware of a flame that was burning bright inside me, to make a grand contribution to the field of relationships therapy.
I wish to breathe new life and creative verve into your work, expand your repertoire of interventions, and provide psychoeducation that could empower your clients to transform their relationships and you witness their changes and growth.