I’m Daniel Linder, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist — and for over 40 years I’ve been working at the intersection of addiction recovery, intimate relationships, and the one relationship that determines the quality of all your other relationships — the one with your Self.
My framework — The Relationship Model of Addiction™ (TRMA™) — redefines addiction not as a disease but as a relationship, and recovery not as abstinence but a three-stage lifelong journey out of non-nourishing relationships into nourishing ones.
I — Breaking Up (with the means of relief)
II — Developing the Relationship with Self
III — Creating Nourishing Relationships
They progress sequentially. You must first break up. Space opens to develop the relationship with your new best friend — your Self. After which, you’ll be empowered to create nourishing relationships.
It applies to virtually all addictions — substances, pornography, gambling, love addiction, and codependency — and to anyone whose relationships are draining them and wishing for a way out.
Whether you’re in recovery, struggling in your closest relationships, navigating dating, or simply longing for deeper connection — you’re in the right place.
RelationshipVision™ is your go-to relationship training resource for the latest perspectives and soundest guidance for those in pursuit of connection and eager to learn more about connecting, communicating, and conversing.
It’s also ideally suited for those on a path of self-work and personal growth who are committed to the rigors of a lifelong training ground — not a quick fix. And never lose sight of the ultimate prerequisite: developing the relationship with your Self is the key to becoming empowered to make more and deeper connections and create nourishing relationships.
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"All of the work I do is about empowering the transformation of relationships by strengthening the relationship with your Self. You can connect with others to the extent you are conscious and connected within yourself. You can't connect if you're not connected."— Daniel A. Linder, MFT
Daniel A. Linder, MFT — Relationship Therapist and Addiction specialist with 40+ years of experience teaching people how to connect and creating a safe space to begin talking about unexpressed feelings and unresolved issues that had long since been avoided and cemented disconnection — in an honest and real way that restores connection and understanding.
“I am a facilitator of conversations that need to be had.”
“Never underestimate the power of understanding to heal, repair and restore!”
"After 20 years together our marriage had grown contentious; at odds more than we enjoyed being together; communication broke down. We had become more reactive and defensive with each other all the time, which is why we sought Daniel for couples therapy. He created a safe space for us to drop our defenses and open up to each other for the first time in a long time. I remember winking at my wife, glad we found him. Not only was it the first time we really talked to each other, it was like we were getting to know each other for the first time. It was mind-blowing and we're forever grateful to Daniel for that experience and for getting us back together."— Bob and Betty B., Berkeley, CA
RelationshipVision.com is intended to serve as your go-to online relationship training resource for keeping up with the latest developments in the areas of connection, intimacy, communication, conversation, addiction, recovery, and intervention.
After 40 years working with individuals, couples, and families, I’ve come to understand one truth above all others: the quality of every relationship in your life reflects the quality of your relationship with your Self. That’s where all the work begins. And it’s where everything changes.
I offer clinical services via Zoom statewide throughout California — and in person in Fallbrook, CA. All services are grounded in The Relationship Model of Addiction™ (TRMA™).
For those ready to do the deeper work — and come home to themselves.
Learn More“Relationships are as good as the conversations had.”
Learn MoreFor families ready to have the conversations they’ve been avoiding.
Learn MoreFor individuals in the grip of addiction — and the families who love them.
Learn More"Daniel's '51–49% Factor' completely changed how I understand relationships. I learned I had spent my life abandoning myself trying to take care of others. With this new awareness, I consider what is best and true for me before I respond to others, but not all the time. It's slow going, I make lots of mistakes but learn from them."— Lila K., Mill Valley, CA
"I have been thinking of you lately and wanted to thank you again for how much you helped my husband. I think I could honestly say that you saved his life. I always knew that my husband and I were very compatible and that we had so much in common, but we went through some very black times. My husband hasn't had a drink in ten years. We are flourishing in retirement.— L.D., Berkeley, CA
So please remember that the work you do in the world benefits people in a deep way.
With deepest thanks."
"Daniel has a rare ability to explain complex emotional and relationship dynamics in ways that are deeply understandable and transformative. He is insightful, direct, authentic, and genuinely embodies what he teaches."— Julie Hatch Parenting Podcast
