Understanding the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships increases the chance of being in the one of your preference, and if you are a clinician, it will enhance your ability to educate, assess and formulate treatment plans.
Being single and dating carry highly charged negative connotations. For many singles, dating is a harsh reminder of being a failed single. What follows from here is a bleak outlook and dread of dating.
Sometimes learning the hard way is the only way to learn regardless of how excruciating the lesson may be. However, there is a silver lining. I’m hoping that by sharing what happened to me, you’ll take my cue, not make the same mistakes, and save yourself a boatload of aggravation.
The relationship training I do with singles is based on the premise that dating, relating and connecting are art forms – you really need to know what you are doing. I have found that the overall biggest stumbling block is the prevailing lack of knowhow, which includes the fact that a number of key terms, concepts and common pitfalls are not on their radar, that the overwhelming majority of singles are not prepared for the real...
Looking back on what I believed and was trying to make happen, I’m left questioning my apparent naïveté or idealism. Decades of working with individuals in recovery taught me that recovery is only just beginning after a sustained period of stabilization is achieved. I saw early-stage recovering clients venture out on their own, rearing to connect, but who invariably returned to therapy quite demoralized. They were unable to st...
Whenever you’re about to meet someone for the first time, ask yourself, are you ready for this?
Being “ready” has to do with your ‘mindset.’ “Ready” means ‘ready to play,’ being focused, motivated, having a ‘game-plan’ to adhere to, and going all out the game is over – until the date is over. ‘Ready’ also means being ready for whatever happens.