Daniel A. Linder is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and an addiction, recovery, and intervention specialist with three-plus decades of experience with individuals, couples, and families, currently practicing in the San Diego area of California, entirely on Zoom.
He’s a self and relationship-based therapist and trainer whose eclectic and integrative approach incorporates mindfulness-based principles and practices; cognitive behavioral and systems therapy; existential, psychoanalytic (making the unconscious conscious and distinguishing between the past and present), and communication skills building into his work.
Daniel has been on a relationship quest since he was five years old and driven by his own need to connect. He was watching how people talked to each other and noticing how connected and/or disconnected they were. Some people talked a lot to each other but said very little; others hardly talked to each other at all. It was apparent when people were not understanding each other, which was most of the time.
It was at the ripe old age of 22 that he decided to pursue relationship therapy as a career. He said, “It was a no-brainer. It’s what I’m best at, have the most experience with, am most passionate about, and where I can have the greatest impact.”
Daniel’s work is about empowering the transformation of relationships by developing the relationship with your Self. He believes that everything changes when you have a relationship with your Self and when you are conscious and connected to the juicy essence of your experience. You’re able to draw on your experience, you’ll make more and deeper connections, and your relationships will work better. You’ll become a powerhouse of connection, more magnetic and attractive, and your creative potential will skyrocket. And you’ll get to feel and register the experience of connection and nourishment combined with the oxytocin that courses through your body when there’s a connection! That is nothing short of a miracle.
But relationships don’t just happen. They are created. Relating, connecting, conversation, and communication are co-creative processes. As with any art form, basic principles apply, and essential skills must be practiced and honed. You must have a game plan and be able to navigate the playing field and play with reckless abandon every time you set foot in the womb of co-creation.
It doesn’t matter what you’ve been through in your life, whether you’ve ever seen or experienced healthy, nourishing, and intimate relationships or lack the know-how because no one ever explained the miracle of connection to you before, YOU CAN ALWAYS LEARN. You can become a more confident and better communicator as long as you’re always practicing and are so motivated. And you always have your Self, which may yet be discovered, and a dazzling array of untapped superpowers lying at the core of your being.
Daniel has several books to his credit, Dating, A Guide to Creating Intimate Relationships; Demystifying Addiction, To Relieve the Pain; Beyond Sobriety, Empowering the Transformation of Relationships Intimacy, The Essence of True Love and TRMA four book set, as well as dozens of related articles (available at RelationshipVision.com). His latest book, The Miracle of Connection, The Birth and Life of an Intimate Relationship, is scheduled to launch in mid-October, 2023.