Teacher Instructing


Meet Daniel

Let me take this opportunity to introduce myself and my work to help you determine whether I’m the right person for you to work with or we’re the right fit.


I’m a natural born relater off the streets of Brooklyn, ready to relate to anyone about anything anytime. And I listen to. 


I’m a self and relationship-based therapist and relationship trainer, working with individuals, couples and families for the past 3+ decades; and addiction, recovery and intervention specialist


All the work I do is about empowering the transformation of relationships by developing the relationship w your Self.


Some of the more salient lessons I’ve learned over the years is that all of the symptoms and struggles that bring people into therapy have one thing in common – relationships are the cause and relationships are the cure.  


Another running theme that I saw play out through the years was a glaring lack of knowhow and prevailing sense of demoralization and ineptitude when it comes to relating, connecting or conversing. 


Relationships, relating, connecting, intimacy and conversations are art forms. As is the case with any co-creative process, basic principles apply, and essential skills must be practiced and honed.


Those I’m best suited to work with are those who are: 

- Struggling in a relationship that isn’t working, in which there 

are communication issues, in a constant state of discord, a state of 

disrepair, in desperate need of a repair station. I m referring to 

any and all relationships with significant others that you want to 

work better, feel closer and more connected to each other.  


- In an addicted or dependency-based relationship with a means 

of relief, i.e. with mind and mood-altering substances, process 

addictions like compulsive gambling, porn and sex addictions, as 

well as with people, i.e. love addiction and codependency, and 

may be looking for an exit strategy. 


And, when the relationship, couple of family are dealing with an 

addiction or any other mental health issue that is destroying their 

significant other and is dragging the family down with it, and is 

when an intervention may be in order. 


- Parents who wish to grow and deepen their relationships w their children, to feel closer and more connected with them, and are looking for guidance for transitioning from seeing and relating to them as children to seeing and relating adult to adult. 


- Parents who wish to be role models and mentors to their children for how to be in and develop healthy, nourishing and intimate relationships with their peers, through their childhood and teens and into their adult lives. 


        - Parents who wish to break free of the locked-in parent-child 

        dynamics that keep them disconnected and at odds with each 

        other, have the conversations that give the wedge of unexpressed 

        feelings and unresolved issues, the airtime needed to bridge 






About Daniel 

Daniel Linder is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Addiction Specialist and Relationship Trainer, practicing in the San Diego area of California working with individuals, couples, family and group therapy since 1981.  He describes himself as a “self and relationship-based therapist,” who incorporates mindfulness-based principles and practices; cognitive behavioral and systems therapy; existential, positive and self-psychology and communication skills building, into his work. 


Daniel is the Author of the upcoming book, The Miracle of Connection, The Birth and Life of an Intimate Relationship. 


"All the work I do is about bringing you back to your Self." 

“All of the work I do is about empowering the transformation of relationships by developing the relationship with your Self.” do is about empowering the transformation of relationships by developing the relationship with your Self.”