How I tell how healthy or unhealthy a relationship is by looking at the quality of their conversations. How much do they talk to each other? When they do talk to each other, how well do they understand each other? Do they have the conversations that need to be had?

The most common factor contributing to relationship and communication breakdowns is the backlog of unexpressed feelings and unresolved issues not getting the airtime they need – pink elephants sitting in the middle of the living room and no one’s talking. These “pink elephants” becomes the impenetrable wedge between them that keeps them from connecting and intimacy. Everyone is colluding to avoid talking about or addressing it directly.

I have become a facilitator of conversations, particularly the ones to address unexpressed feelings and unresolved issues, and handhold them through the conversation, so that they feel that they can see, get to know and understand each other better, close the gap and leave them feeling closer and more connected as a result to talking through their feelings and issues – address those “pink elephants” that stands between them and keeps them disconnected.

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