The secret key to an ever-growing and deepening relationship is based on The 51-49% Factor – The Optimal Energetic Balance in an Intimate Relationship. The 51-49% Factor is a formula I came up with for understanding the miracle of connection and what makes it a miracle, and a numeric blueprint of the requisite conditions that must be in place. It’s the sweet spot where you want to be and how you want to conduct yourself in any relationship, and when you are as deeply engaged
Brene Brown - “Cultivating Connection w Self and Other comes down to self-awareness. We cannot be more connected to others than we are to ourselves. We have to understand our own emotional landscape, what’s driving our behavior before we can feel into and understand the other person. Make no mistake about it – emotion is at the wheel, thinking and actions are not riding shotgun, they’re in the trunk. We are emotional beings. We must learn how to recognize emotion in ourselve
How I tell how healthy or unhealthy a relationship is by looking at the quality of their conversations. How much do they talk to each other? When they do talk to each other, how well do they understand each other? Do they have the conversations that need to be had? The most common factor contributing to relationship and communication breakdowns is the backlog of unexpressed feelings and unresolved issues not getting the airtime they need – pink elephants sitting in the middle
Most couples or relationships I work with come in because of repeated communication breakdowns, their inability to talk to each other, have and get through conversations that need to be had, i.e. regarding unexpressed feelings and unresolved issues.
As a facilitator of conversations, I give them directives and opportunities to practice and develop essential communication skills like listening, self-disclosing, asking questions, which can feel laborious and interminably slow