True Love vs. Being in Love

Isn’t being in love the ultimate high? First we nodded in agreement. Then we started talking about it.

It’s that feeling of gazing into each other’s eyes with excitement and interest, discovering that you love each other, and it’s better than you ever imagined it would be. It’s being able to love unencumbered.

I’m talking about the making love part, making love when you are in love; that is something else, when sexual energy is swirling, when the sex couldn’t be any wilder, when the whole relationship is still novel…in the very early stages, when everything is intensified.

Then after that, what happens next? What happens to the relationship?”

The gazing may continue. Being in love can take on a life of its own. The two people may try to ride the wave of intensity, excitement and merging for as long as it can last and further bolstered when they are then overcome by sexual energy as well.

Or they may not want to develop that intense of an involvement. They may not want the encumberments and the mundane of an ongoing relationship.

In that case, it is a matter of passion or lust, pure lust, no relationship.

It’s a being in love that is sexually driven. Being the ultimate high must have to do with sex…and romance. The relationship revolves around the excitement.

Sounds like a far cry from true love.

It’s becoming clearer that being in love and true love are two different entities. True love is the opposite of being in love; excitement revolves around the ever-deepening relationship. There is a commitment to stick together through “good times and bad, an undying loyalty and faith that transcends intensity and excitement, and that continues long after the high has gone or become intermittent.

True love is a manifestation of an ideal, and the ideal becomes realized when acted upon.

And it is believed in and practiced. The key is your belief and action that follows naturally. The moment you stop believing or having faith, you’ll no longer act. Some kind of disconnect will occur. Either, you’ll stop expressing through action or communication, and then disconnect; or you’ll stop feeling or caring, and then disconnect. True love will not manifest.

If it is true love, one is inspired by one’s heart, by the bond of forever – until death do us part -- on a daily basis. Otherwise it will not manifest or become intermittent.

Attainable or unattainable?

Space must be made, an opening, some space and time to be able to feel before any profundity can register or realization occur.

If one is preoccupied or distracted, stressed, anxious or depressed, or in pain and desperate for relief, it will be impossible to stay conscious and aware, present and focused, interested and impassioned.

True love is also a state consciousness and awareness that precedes the realization is that love is the most important thing in life, that nothing else really matters.