What Keeps you in this Relationship?
Daniel,
Thank you for responding. I have been in a relationship for 4+ years with a 42 year old man. I thought that his being 42 meant that he would be able to handle reality and honesty. Not true! I think he would rather live a make believe life and pretend all is well instead of discussing the issues and working to try to make things better. I have been driving myself crazy trying to understand and get him to talk to me. He just shuts himself off. It infuriates me. I am so exhausted by all this and I still do not have the answers I need. Can you please send me the web address to read all the responses? Thank you.
Also, I guess I left out some pertinent information. My boyfriend is an alcoholic.
Hello,
Have you been in therapy exploring what it is that keeps you in this relationship at any point during the 4 years?
You've been striving to achieve a deeper level of intimacy with someone who, at this time, appears incapable of joining you towards that purpose, incapable of responding in kind. What being an alcoholic usually means is that there already is an established relationship, a primary relationship, a relationship more powerful than any other; not with you or anyone else, but with alcohol. He needs to be motivated for treatment for his alcoholism, and you for your co-dependency.
Definition of Co-dependency:
http://www.relationshipvision.com/faqs-addictions.html#9
Daniel
Thank you for responding. I have been in a relationship for 4+ years with a 42 year old man. I thought that his being 42 meant that he would be able to handle reality and honesty. Not true! I think he would rather live a make believe life and pretend all is well instead of discussing the issues and working to try to make things better. I have been driving myself crazy trying to understand and get him to talk to me. He just shuts himself off. It infuriates me. I am so exhausted by all this and I still do not have the answers I need. Can you please send me the web address to read all the responses? Thank you.
Also, I guess I left out some pertinent information. My boyfriend is an alcoholic.
Hello,
Have you been in therapy exploring what it is that keeps you in this relationship at any point during the 4 years?
You've been striving to achieve a deeper level of intimacy with someone who, at this time, appears incapable of joining you towards that purpose, incapable of responding in kind. What being an alcoholic usually means is that there already is an established relationship, a primary relationship, a relationship more powerful than any other; not with you or anyone else, but with alcohol. He needs to be motivated for treatment for his alcoholism, and you for your co-dependency.
Definition of Co-dependency:
http://www.relationshipvision.com/faqs-addictions.html#9
Daniel
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